Saturday, December 1, 2007

Well, another day has passed. This day has been L-O-N-G for both us and Daniel. One of Shannon's former students, Melissa, offered to accompany us to Beijing for lunch and some shopping. We left the foster home at 10 a.m. this morning and made the hour and a half drive into Beijing. Once there, we had lunch at a famous Beijing duck restaurant. One of Daniel's Chinese sponsors wanted to treat us to a traditional Beijing duck meal, and boy was it something! Daniel was the honored guest. They even served him a beautiful chocolate cake with candles and everything. The meal ended up lasting about 2 hours and we at things that I never thought I'd eat. We had duck heart, duck feet and duck eggs (Sylvia, you would have been proud!). Actually it wasn't all as bad as it sounds - o.k. the duck feet was pretty bad but I managed to get it down with a smile. The actual duck itself was delicious. Daniel was so great through it all. He ate like a pig and enjoyed all the picture-taking and attention. After lunch Melissa took us to the Pearl market for some shopping and as we remebered from our trip here in February, it was totally overwhelming. But we found the things we were looking for (Shannon, you'll know what)and left the market about 4:30. Daniel was whipped but maintained a really good attitude through it all. Melissa really wanted to treat us to dinner, so on the way home we stopped for a "light" dinner at a restaurant here in Qingyundian. The meal actually wasn't light, but it was yummy! We made it back to the foster home around 7 p.m. - just in time for Daniel to play with the other kids and get totally overstimulated just before bed. When we left him at 8 p.m. he was screaming and crying out for his mama, which broke both of our hearts. We hated to leave him. But we know he is just crazy-tired just as we are after such a full day.

It is getting really sad to watch everyone here prepare for Daniel to leave. His nanny loves him so much, you can just see it in her eyes. Sometimes I catch a glimpse of sorrow in her eyes as she watches him with us. My heart goes out to her.

We apologize that we can't post pictures yet. For now we are using the computer lab here at New Day and so cannot download our photos, but we are hoping that once we fly to Wulumuqi on Monday, we will be able to connect to the internet on our lap top. We will do our best! Please keep praying for us!!! We are exhausted and a bit overwhelmed with taking care of a 4-year-old again, but we know that God will give us exactly what we need each day. And we do love Daniel so much. Everytime he asks for Mama or Baba, our hearts melt. Neil is doing so well with him. He even played horse today for the first time in about 15 years. His knees didn't last long, but we promised Daniel he'd do more tomorrow. We'll write more soon. Love you all!

This is from Neil. Even though the day has been long and hard we did have some special times. The gal who invited us to lunch today volunteered at the foster home and came to love Daniel very much. It was obvious by the way she doted over him that she cared a lot for him and was very happy that he now has a family. She gave us a small picture album and also a picture of the 2 of them together. It is also a blessing to see Daniel getting attached to his Mama. There were 2 times today when Lora went to get something that Daniel got very concerned and kept asking where Mama was. It was very touching to hear him calling to her. We did have a bit of a scare this evening though. When we stopped for dinner Daniel had been asleep on my lap and when we got him out of the car he started crying and was very upset. Melissa calmed him down but when we got ready to leave he started acting scared to go outside. He told Melissa that the devil lived in the dark. We told him to hold on to me and I would protect him from devil and he would be safe. When we got back to the foster home he wanted to get inside right away. We aren't sure where he got this idea but it's a very real fear for him and something we will need to cover him with prayer about. We know that the devil is a defeated foe but explaining that to a 4-year-old who doesn't speak much English will be a big challenge. In the meantime I hope that he will cling to us when he is afraid. Now it is bedtime... GOODNIGHT!

8 comments:

Amy said...

Hey guys, Praise the Lord that Daniel 's bond is growing so strong with you both. It makes my heart melt thinking about how good it must feel for him to have mamma and baba. It sounds like maybe he is hesitant to feel secure. It makes me angry to think of the enemy robbing his little mind of peace. We know that God will conquer that spirit of fear and know that we will rise up and pray against it with you! Okay, Lora, kudos on the duck consumption! WOW! I don't know if I could do it...I thought that was SO cool that you had the privilege to meet one of Daniel's sponsors. That will be a valuable memory for him one day as he sees how the Lord provided and cared for him. Also, the love you see in his nannies eyes...that so bitter sweet. I praise the Lord that He has given Daniel such love and care and protection. God has now given him YOU, his mama and baba. Now it is time to bring him home! For such a time as this you both have been placed upon this earth! What a gift from His gracious hand. It will be good when you can begin to bond apart from New Day. and Neil...lastly I ..."giddie up"!!!!
Love and prayers.
Amy

Brad Arnold said...

Neil and Lora,

I am feeling overwhelmed thinking about the new feeling of adoption. The excitement and joy that Daniel is feeling, causing him to show off, is the same feeling we have as zealous new believers at the moment of conversion. I could just picture Daniel feeling the same way I did when I realized that my father loves me so much He sent His son to die for me, and each day I can wake up an play horse with HIM. Daniel is a gift to you and you are a gift to him.

Lora, I am so glad the Lord is giving you affirmation of Daniel's need and love for his mama. I am sure that will grow everyday. We are praying for you and love to hear what each day brings for you.

Brad

The Clements said...

Hey Mom and Dad! I'm so jealous that you got to eat Beijing duck (but I'm not jealous about the feet). It sounds like Daniel is really loving you guys which makes me so happy. And I'm glad he took to the walker right away. So it sounds like Melissa helped you a lot and was a great tour guide. And yay that you got my purse :)

It's such a dark town that Daniel has been living in his whole life. He'll see from you and your lives that he has nothing to fear when Christ is the lord of out lives!!!!! I'll be praying so hard for him!!!!!

Sorry I missed your call. I heard it, ran for the phone knowing it was you, and as soon as I got it out, I lost you. Bummer. Call again when you can!

Love you Love you
Love you
Shannon

The Millers said...

Neil and Lora,

We are praying for you daily and will be praying over Daniel's fear. We are so pleased that he is bonding with you. Enjoy your time with him as you prepare to leave for his home province.

We cannot wait until you get home!

Chad and Melissa

The Laws said...

Okay, you have made me mist up a bit...easy to do in my present state. Maybe even Steve misted up a bit too(but don't tell him I told on him). It is amazing to see God's plan for your family unfold!!! Colby is your little prayer warrior and prays for you every day so far.

The Millers said...

Hi, friends!

We are so thrilled for you all and love you much. We know how overwhelming all the stuff can be but believe it or not the time goes so fast when you look back over it.
It sounds like you are doing so well and can't wait to see pictures of you holding precious Daniel. We are sorry to have not posted much but we are still out of sorts with sleep and all. Last night was good and we got more sleep. Yea!!

I love how Daniel is bonding with you. God is so good and will provide EVERYTHING you need. We are living testaments of that. He puts the lonely in families and has finally brought Daniel to his forever family. What a blessing for you that he was so bonded to his foster family. Although it was heart wrenching for me at times,it has made Sarah Beth so much more loving and secure. As I was holding her today, she kept smiling and saying "Ma Ma Ma". My heart melts. I just know Daniel can feel how much you love him!!

Although Sarah Beth can not verbalize her fears yet, she always seemed afraid when we were in public and was VERY clingy. I think this is normal as they begin to bond to you and feel secure in your love. It almost seemed as if she was afraid someone would take her if she wasn't in our arms. We will pray for you about Daniel's fears. We still tell her not to be afraid alot. The Chinese way to say not to be afraid sounds like "Bo pa"(like bow from bow and arrow and pa like father). Don't ask me how to write it in Chinese, though!!! Also the way to say, don't cry sounds like "boo coo". Maybe this will help. We will so be praying for you, friends!

I don't know how many times I prayed for you on the flight home, knowing you were in the air too. God brought you all to mind so many times! You are doing a great job Mommy and Daddy. The very BEST parents that Daniel could ever have. You are loved here and can't wait to see how God continues to work while you are there!

Melissa

Sherry Semlow said...

Neil & Lora -

Wow! Duck Feet. I'm impressed. That takes off the pressure that I'll be able to feed you anything when you come to our house for dinner.

How precious that he is calling you mama and baba. We are definitely praying for Daniel's fears. But as I was praying today, I also thanked God that these fears are giving you both opportunities to show him comfort and protection, and that he will soon learn that that is what mama's and baba's do. We continue to pray that God will give you rest and supernatural energy in the absence of rest.

What sweet pictures I have of Neil playing horsie! Definitely one of Kaden's favorites. Kindermusic has taught us to do gentle bounces for the way mommy rides, BIG bounces for the way daddy rides, and crazy, wiggly bounces for the way Kaden rides. The last one always brings lots of giggles. (Hope you packed lots of Advil, Neil.)

Praying your travel to the next spot goes well. We're hoping along with you that you'll be able to post some pictures from there.

We'll miss you at church and small group tomorrow, but you can be sure that we will be praying corporately for you all.

Love, Sherry

Amy said...

Neil and Lora,
Laura Sanders wanted me to let you know they are praying for you and send their love. They are moving into the house this week and she anticipated her internet being down for a while yet so she cannot post :(